We all have best friends ,we kind of not letting them go as far they surround us. But in some circumstances, the dreams we want to achieve , continuing our studies elsewhere, or even traveling, we’ve got no other choice than to leave our only friend behind. Or other point , being that the relationship with your Bestie isn’t moving on well.
Sometimes it’s difficult saying “Good-byes” strucking in mind the experience you’ve shared with him or her.
These are simple steps to take to finally say goodbye to her.
Take a break from the friendship.
You don’t have to end the friendship if you think there’s a future. Just like any relationship, friendships aren’t going to be perfect 100% of the time. If you and your friend are having some conflict, don’t be afraid to put a pause on your relationship. You two can reconvene at the end and talk things out, or you can stay out of each other’s lives for good.
Say something like, “I’m not sure if our friendship is working right now. I think I’d like to take a little break from the friendship, just to get my head on straight. Maybe we can talk again in a month or so.”
End the friendship with an honest conversation.
Older friendships deserve a serious talk. If you and your friend are having issues, ask to meet up so you two can talk about them. You can discuss your feelings and why you feel the need to end the friendship.
You could say something like, “Hey, could we meet up and talk? I want to chat about some issues we’ve been having lately. I think our friendship is getting a little toxic, and it might be best for me to take some time for myself.”
Use “I” statements when ending a friendship.
Focus your words on yourself, not on the other person. If you can talk about your own emotions and what you’re feeling, your ex-friend is less likely to get defensive. That way, you may be able to have a more productive conversation with less anger.
For instance, instead of saying, “You never text me first,” try with, “I feel like I always reach out first, which makes me wonder if I’m as important to you as you are to me.”
Instead of saying, “You always use me for stuff,” say, “I only hear from you when you need something, which makes me feel a little bit used.”
Send an email if you don’t want to talk in person
It’s not the best way to end a friendship, but it will get the job done. If your friendship has turned toxic or you can’t get in touch with this person to talk face to face, technology may be the best solution. Shoot them an email or send them a text to let them know that your friendship is breaking down.
For instance, you might say, “Hey Diane, just reaching out to let you know why I haven’t been responding to you lately. I think our friendship is becoming a bit toxic, and I don’t think it’s good for us to keep hanging out.”
Make a special gift for a friend who is moving away.
Compile your memories together so they’ll remember you. For instance, you might put together a scrapbook of all the vacation you went on or a digital photo album of all the pics you have together. You can give it to your friend before they leave as a sweet gesture.
If you don’t have a ton of photos, try writing down special memories in a notebook instead.
Throw a going away party for them.
Gather their loved ones for a fun celebration before they move. Buy a cake, decorate your house, and plan a few fun party games. You can talk about all the memories you’ve made with each other during your time together and how much fun they’re going to have in their new space.
If your friend is going somewhere specific (like a new city or country), consider making that the party theme.
Promise to keep in touch if one of you is moving.
Long-distance friendships are definitely a thing. If you or your friend are moving far away from each other, you don’t have to say goodbye for good. Stay in touch via phone calls, video chats, or social media. Make plans to visit each other on your off days or take a fun vacation together during the summer.
Long-distance friendships take a little more work to maintain than normal ones, but they can definitely be done!
Try to stay updated on each other’s lives while you’re not together. That way, you won’t grow apart from each other.
Tell them you love them if they’re passing away.
Let them know how much they mean to you before they’re gone. Visit them and hold their hand as you describe all the fun times you two had during your friendship.