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Are you a perfect mom??? 12 qualities to show


Being a mom comes in so many stages. Either a young mom or very older, your main objective is your impact on your family. Are you able to satisfy  your kids,your husband and his relatives and also yourself. Yes of course , “Yourself”. Society has made so unattractive when a woman either in marriage or not ,becomes a mom.

It says, all your time and attention should be providing all of which is expected for your family than yourself. But even most of  the times, you tend to see later on, your efforts given do not yield better results as expected.

You can be a perfect mom to yourself and your family. Read this:

Patient :One of the first things new moms learn (aside from the importance of sleep) is patience.Newborns cry, toddlers get into everything, and older kids try to test your limits. But it’s difficult for kids to learn patience, especially when adults struggle to model it.Ways to be a perfect mom

Even on the most difficult days, like when your toddler clearly isn’t patient, staying patient as a mom is important. Not only will it help you model “good behavior” for your child, but it’ll also help you respond to your children with a level head.

Just like you try to teach a toddler patience (waiting to turn the pages in a book, taking turns with toys, not eating a snack five minutes before dinner, etc.), moms need reminders, too.

Self-care goes a long way in staying patient, but if you’ve been struggling with finding time for self-care, or even if you feel guilty making the time, stop! Here are some tips to make time for self-care so that you can be more patient (and calm) around your kids.

Consistent :Consistency is one of the easiest ways to make your child feel secure, yet it’s one of the most difficult things to do as a parent.

We want to be the good parent. The fun parent. The understanding parent.But the consistent parent? That’s not fun!Ways to be a perfect mom

I struggle with giving in when my kids want to stay outside for 10 more minutes. I also make excuses, like when they don’t eat all their dinner and want a cookie (oh, I gave them too much food).

But we’re not doing our kids any favors when we give in.

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Instead of teaching them that I’m a reasonable parent, I’m teaching my kids that they should whine when they don’t get their way.

When they go to school, do I really want them whining to their teacher because they would rather have recess instead of a math lesson? No!

By being consistent, you’ll show your kids boundaries. They’ll learn what’s acceptable, and they’ll feel more confident in their own decision-making.

Learning to be consistent, as with most parenting principles, is a difficult lesson. But once you learn how to be consistent, you’ll be amazed at the difference in your kids.

Forgiving :Love and Logic is an amazing  experience to learn how to discipline children correctly.Kids make mistakes. So do parents.

Good  and perfect moms forgive their kids. Ways to be a perfect momReally good moms forgive their kids while helping them learn a lesson.

It takes the pressure off parents to discipline ,because kids will learn consequences naturally (obviously, it’s still the parent’s job to keep kids safe, so letting your child run in the street probably isn’t recommended as a natural consequence).

It’s ok to be upset when the kids break your favorite coffee mug, and Love and Logic helps you to see when it’s appropriate to show anger and when the kids need to learn from their mistakes.

But whether your kids do something to you or to someone else, forgiveness and lessons learned help them grow.

Calm :If forgiving children is a characteristic of a perfect mom, then staying calm is also a requirement.

Motherhood is an emotional experience, and sometimes it’s hard to control your temper, even if you’ve never had a “temper problem” before.

When your patience is low, you’re tired, and you’re feeling stressed, it’s easy to lose your temper.

I’ll be the first to admit that I lose my temper more than I’d like to admit. One thing that’s been helping me keep my temper in check is the anger management section o

Learning to reframe my frustration so that I can stay calm instead of screaming or taking it out on my kids has been life-changing.

I’ll admit – I have days when this is more of a struggle than others, but I love the refreshingly honest way that this course helps you to control your temper and get the kids to manage their frustrations in healthy ways.

Organized :Organization isn’t just about keeping the toys and clutter minimized. Staying organized can also mean time management, something many moms struggle with.

If you struggle with organization, especially when it comes to handling your kids’ school papers, projects, activities, and everything else, start by writing everything down. I keep track of my meal plan, kids’ activities, cleaning schedule, and more

When you bring in the mail or go through your kids’ papers, file, trash, or do something with them immediately. Your kitchen counters (and your kids’ teachers) will thank you.

Loving: You love your kids, but in the daily hustle, remembering to show your love in little ways can be difficult.

When you’re throwing last night’s leftovers in a thermos for your son’s lunch or frantically trying to find your daughter’s shoes in the morning, love is probably the last thing you’re projecting.

Spending a couple extra seconds to hug your child as he runs out the door, make a “good day note” for his lunch box, or snuggle while reading an extra book at nap time is all it takes.

Get the Kids’ Letter Bundle for more “love note” ideas and ways to create special moments for your kids.

Friendly :Your kids need you to be a good friend. Not to them, but to their friends’ mom.Being a parent forced me to step outside my comfort zone.

On one hand, it was nice to have other moms to commiserate with, but it was also a challenge. I had to talk to that mom on the sideline of my son’s baseball game instead of just snuggling into the couch with a good book, which is what I would’ve done pre-kids.

If you’re struggling to find or maintain friendships in motherhood, or even if you just want to be able to make conversation and relate to the moms in your kids’ classes, I loved the wise advice is to be- friend their teacher or head of the school.

Fierce:There’s a time and place to be fierce, but when it’s necessary, you need to know the best way to pull out the claws.

One time when being fierce is important is during times of medical emergencies or when you need to protect your child.

My kids have food allergies, so I’ve struggled to find a balance with being fierce. While I have to protect my kids from potentially life-threatening foods, I struggle with being too forceful and offending family members. However, after several situations when people didn’t heed my polite reminders, I’ve realized that it’s ok to be fierce in order to protect my children.

On the other hand, there are times when you shouldn’t be fierce, like when you’re working with your child’s teacher to correct behavior issues. If it’s not a life-threatening issue, advice from trusted family members, friends, and teachers should be welcome.

Most people have your child’s best interests at heart. Even if you disagree with their opinion, in most situations, it’s best to take a balanced approach!

Knowledgeable: Chances are, you don’t know everything that your kids will ask. A knowledgeable mom doesn’t know everything, either (and if she did, I don’t think I’d want to be friends with her).

But a knowledgeable mom knows where to find answers to her kids’ questions

A knowledgeable mom also instills a hunger for learning in her kids. By having interesting conversations, asking questions, and listening to your kids, you can be a knowledgeable perfect  mom, even if you don’t know everything.

I love these dinner conversation starter cards. I get tired of asking my son, “What did you do in school today,” and I’m pretty sure he’s tired of answering the same question.

Just by going the extra step of talking to your kids and taking an interest in their activities, you’ll be able to show your love.

Brave:You’re loved more than you know. You’re braver than you even imagine.Being a  perfect mom requires a bravery that you probably didn’t know you had.

Just making it through birth takes bravery. But even after birth, you’ll need to be brave as you kiss your kids’ boo-boos. Brave as you send them off to preschool, then kindergarten, and then college. Brave as you raise them to be the people you always knew they would be.

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Dorcas Prah known professionally as Crisely Blay is a Ghanaian celebrity blogger, freelance journalist, and reporter.


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